My husband has to go have a sugery and he is having it about 2 and half hours away. We have two daughters one who is going to be 3 in Aug she is potty training and has some mild allergies that are afftecting her at this time and a 6 month old who is teething and just starting her solids. My oldest daughter is also suppose to be in a wedding the week that he'll be in the hospital. My husbands sugery is on th 11th, the wedding rehersal is the 12th, and the wedding is on the 14th.I don't really feel like it is in the girls best interest to take the up there. I'm breastfeeding and honestly as much as I love my closest friends and family I don't feel like I should leave my girls overnight. My husbands parents are going to the surgery with him.Also we have just bought a couple laptops with some webcams so my husband can take his laptop and hopefully find a internet connection so we can see each other and communicate.Does that make me seem like a bad wife since I won't be there.My husband is having a tumor removed from his foot also having one tendon removed from his foot and a skin graft from his hip to his foot.I'm not saying I'm not going to make it up there at this time. Just not going to be there when he gets out of surgery. Like someone said I might go up the day after the wedding. Also I scared if I do go and take the girls for the day they will be scared about what is happening to there daddy.