When my husband and I take our children (32 month son, 8 month daughter) to my in-laws house I usually come home feeling a bit contentious. Some of my husband's younger siblings (23 year-old disabled brother, 18 year-old brother, 15 year-old sister) still live at "home" so my son tends to spend his time wandering around the house playing with different people. My daughter is teething so she doesn't like me to be very far away while she plays, and she very rarely likes anyone other than myself, my husband, or my son (with help) to hold her (this probably has something to do with my being a stay at home mommy...my children very rarely get baby-sat). While we are there, most of my time is spent paying card games with my (disables) brother-in-law, or tending to my little sweetie dressed in pink. Although my husband spends most of the time just sitting around on the couch watching TV/movies or talking with his parents, his mother addresses EVERY question or concern about my son to me.my mother-in-law does this reguardless of what I or my husband are doing, and will do this for any question (including very simple ones that oviously my husband would be able to help with such as whether our son would rather have chocalate pudding pie or bananna pudding pie), or asking me to help my son do something like get a drink. I have asked my husband to be more aware of this and to try to handle things if I am busy, which he has made an effort to do. But Unfortunately that hasn't solved the problem because if I happen to be in a bedroom playing a game and my husband is in the livingroom not doing much, my mother-in-law will come into the bedroom and get my attention with her concern which often times does interupt the game (and if I have to walk past where my daughter is playing happily and she sees me, she usually gets upset and fusses until I get her which makes completing a game a little inconveinent.When my mother-in-law comes into other rooms to find me my husband doesn't know who she is going in to talk to or what she needs until after she has already gotten me to take care of whatever it was. I don't mind her asking a parent before my son gets a drink or a snack when he asks, but why does it always have to be me? I mean, my husband is finishing school and working full-time right now so he isn't home very much, but he does know how to take care of our children, and he would be able to ask me if he needed to. She may be trying to give my husband a break/a chance to relax, but as I said he isn't home very much right now, so it would just be giving him more opportunities to be act like a daddy. What can I do about this situation? How can I (and./or my husband) talk to her about this without being hurtful or offending her? (Her children still ask to get snacks for themselves out of the kitchen, so it seems to be in her nature to have children be very dependable on parents.)