If you were given this ultimatum, what would you do?

Your spouse of 6 years tells you "You are going to clean this house today. If the kitchen isn't spotless when I get home, I am throwing everything away."Assume that your house is clean but there are always dishes to be done- I don't mean stacked to the ceiling, I mean maybe at any given time there are five or six to be done. Assume you are going to school and caring for a family of seven, including the aforementioned spouse, yourself, two kids of his from a previous marriage, and three of your own. Assume the littlest is teething and needs held almost nonstop, and that you can never finish everything within a day. Do you: follow the ultimatum? Ignore the ultimatum; he can throw away what he please? Leave? Something else entirely?

Tell him to get his a.ss to the sink and get washing.

Can you leave?! Your spouse sounds like he's turned into a control freak and/or dictator. If the house bothers him so much maybe he should pitch in and help, or else find someone else to take care of his kids. What a guy! It makes one wonder how he treats you otherwise.

I would leave for a couple of days and make HIM wear your shoes for a bit.He'll change his tune real quick.or...Tell him that you will buy something more expensive to replace anything that he throws away.

The asshole referred to as 'dad' here always says he is going to throw shit away if it's not picked up. Nothing has been done, if he is anything like the asshole here leave his ass.

from my experience, anytime one of my ex's gave me an ultimatum, to me that shows a sign a no respect. i don't mind helping out around the house but don't treat me like a kid and tell me i better. they will lose everytime. then again maybe that is why i am single, but stand up for yourself and tell them to ask nicely

what your spouse cant wash dishes?tell him fine, no sex until he learns to wash dishes.people who give ultimatims are a waste of time.divorce him and take him to the cleaners. he can raise his own kids by himself.during various times in my life i have resulted to paper plates and disposable silverware and glasses. it is soo much easier.

Tell him to go fly a kite you are the Queen of the house and you will do it whenever you want if he wants it done sooner do it himself

If it is my wife, I will try to clean it because I am a slob who really need some order.

Shoot, I'd be like, "go ahead, throw s**t away, dumba**"you have enough on your plate, the last thing you need is some a$$hole coming at you like he's your daddy..you've got one of those already..what you need is someone who can relate to you and understand your position at home..it's hard to maintaine a house along with children and pleasing the afore-mentioned spouse..you can't make everyone happy..my suggestion to you is to tell him that he needs to shut his mouth, we are not living in the stone age anymore and that he needs to help you when it comes to dealing with the things that need to be delt with in the house..and if he doesn't agree, than i suggest you either kick his ass out or leave - assuming it's possible...Good Luck

Change the locks while they are gone or .....Do it and then follow them around for a few days and anything they leave out throw away

tell him...he better learn how to cook and clean if wants to throw everthing away...also there are websites out there that will show you what the salary is for a particular job...list all of the job titles you have..example...nanny, chef, cleaning woman, seamstress, counseler etc... compile this list and show him...see what that does

No spouse has a right to make demands like that. It's degrading and psychologically abusive. Express your concerns to your spouse and ask if he would consider hiring help. Regardless of his answer, tell him you would like to visit a counsellor (with him) to address the way he views your responsibilities at home. If he refuses, tell him he obviously requires much more than you are capable of giving. And then, do everything you can (legally) to get out of that relationship. Everything!

Honestly, your spouse is being a little unreasonable. You already takes on a lot of responsibility. Perhaps he/she should try to take on a little work. If they threaten to throw everything away, apparently they are angry about something and maybe what is truly bothering them is not the house but something much deeper. You should try to talk to your spouse and explain that you do not appreciate ulimatum, you are not a child that should be punished for misbehavior. But when you do this, do it in a calm manner, you would not want to upset your spouse (especially if they are abusive--verbally or physically) But it is important that they realize that some new rules must be set and that you two are long over due for a heart to heart discussion. But back to the initial question I think you should clean the house the best you can and what ever does not get done, just does not get done. there is no use of putting too much stress on yourself because then who is going to be left to take care of your family if you become ill or worst. Just talk to your spouse and explain how you feel, if they love you they will understand. If this does not work and they start throwing things away, maybe you should tell them that this is not allowable since all of the belongining are not theirs and you will call the authorities. I hope it does not come to this, just make sure you do not put yourself in a situation where he or she has the ultimate control, this could be dangerous. Just use your best judgment on the time, place and manner on which you will tell him or her. Hope everything works out, and be safe. Good luck

I sympathise, I have seven kids, a husband who is in the throws of a midlife crisis, a newly deceased father, narcissistic mother a house I never get any help in that is never clean for more than a minute. My husband has decided to become a big cheater to boot! Let the house go. My 7 month old is teething too. They are only little once, and they will always be yours, your spouse my not. Do your best to take care of yourself, it is so had to not feel like you are going to loose your mind! good luck!

Tell him your hands are full. Kids are alot of work. Just because he works outside the home doesn't mean he can't give you a helping hand when he get's home. If he doesn't like to see dirty dishes why cant he wash them up. Any little thing he does would help you out. Come on it takes two. Having little ones drain your energy. He sounds like an ass. He's not showing you any respect for the things you do. If your house isnt a pig sty I'd tell him to take more responsibilities at home.

I would clean his closet. Set 'his things' outside the front door.

whats an ultimatum? a death sentence?

I would not follow that. HELL NO!!!! What he should do is switch places with you (i would love to say a week, but we all know he wouldn't last) for one day. some men seem to think that taking care of kids and everything else is some easy job. to help the situation he should be willing to help u out as well... I don't know your financial situation but you don't need someone else nagging over some miner issue(s) u already have several. He need to go the hell up and be a man. my advise is to not do it ,but don,t put your self in any danger (i don't know your full story with this person(i say person because a real man would appreciate a woman like you and help out)... everybody is not perfect but there are much better solutions.

He's insulting, abusing, selfish and juvenile. I won't clean up, he can throw out whatever pleases him while I make plans to dump his a.s.s