Tell him that since he has outings with his guy friends, you want outings with your girlfriends. Tell him that he packs the baby's bag 3 nights and you'll pack the baby's bag 3 nights and you both get Sunday off. Tell him you'll do the dishes and the laundry and the vaccuming and the tbathroom cleaning and the cooking and the grocery shopping and the straitening the house. After all, he does pay the rent, the phone bill, the electricity bill, the grocery bill, and the gas bill. (yes, list everything you do to contribute for everything he does to contribute.) You'll be leveling the playing field, logically- just like men like it. He complains because that's probably what you do. Men tend to mimic behavior they think is appropriate or acceptable.